“In, but not of” or “Transformed and Sent”

The common paradigm for Christian living in this world is that we should “in, but not of” the world. Surely this is good advice; after all, Jesus used those very words when He prayed for his disciples in John 17. However, when you see that advice in action it often looks more like “us vs. them.” Is there a better way to describe our “way of being” in a culture that does not share our values or our God? A tweak in terminology may get us closer to what Jesus had in mind in John 17.